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Welcome to True Crime, authors and extraordinary people.
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The podcast where we bring two passions together.
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The show that gives new meaning to the old adage, truth is stranger than fiction.
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And reminding you that there is an extraordinary person in all of us.
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Here is your host, David McLam.
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What's going on, everybody?
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Welcome to another episode of True Crime Authors and Extraordinary People, of course.
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I'm your man, David McClam.
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All right, so today we have a fabulous guest.
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Let me introduce to you who our guest is.
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He is a visionary, co-founder of Bridge Investment Group who traded fortune for philanthropy.
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Renowned as a keynote speaker to royalty and elite gatherings across six continents, his powerful voice echoes with a mission to protect children from the deaths of human trafficking.
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Having led a staggering 70 undercover missions, his life was forever transformed, propelling him to become a knighted guardian in Rome and a beacon of inspiration worldwide.
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With honorary doctorates, prestigious awards, and an upcoming book release, his remarkable journey of liberation and empowerment will ignite your spirit and forever reshape your understanding of what it means to be truly heroic.
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He is the executive producer of the movie Sound of Freedom and the founder of Child Liberation Foundation.
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Please welcome Paul Hutchinson.
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Hey, Paul, thank you for joining us today.
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Hey, thanks, Dave.
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Super excited to be here with you and sharing with your audience.
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It is my honor and pleasure to have you here.
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I know there's a lot of things we're going to talk about today, but I have to start out with this one because I'm sure I'm not the only one that's wondering this.
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So I have to ask you, what was it like to become a knighted guardian in Rome?
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And for those that do not know what that is, can you explain to that what that explain to us what that means?
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Thank you.
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So well, uh years ago, I was I was knighted and knight of the knight of the Templar, and uh it was uh uh a beautiful experience because of the charity work that I had done and and the impact that I had made.
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And then Prince Lorenzo dean Medici, the Medici family, is uh very powerful family in Europe and and uh Rome doesn't have a royal family anymore.
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Uh you know, the ruling uh classes more uh like here in the U.S., but the the family still exists.
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And he heard me speak to a group of royalty and and world leaders in a couple different times, once in Panama and once in the Virgin Islands.
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And he said, Paul, he said, we would like to honor you with uh with knighting you in Rome.
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And it was it was kind of fun.
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He I wanted this sword that I got knighted in Knight of the Templar, and the Templars wouldn't sell it to me.
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I'm like, oh I really want a freaking sword above me.
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You know, I want that sword.
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So I told Prince Lar Prince Lorenzo, I said, bro, I said, the sword that you knight me with, like buy that sword.
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He goes, Oh, you cannot buy this.
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This has been in the family for a hundred years.
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This is what we use to knight the knights with.
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And I said, Well, your family has a foundation, right?
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He goes, Yeah.
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I said, if I made a sizable donation to your foundation, could I get the sword?
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And so anyway, so I have that sword hanging up in my living room now.
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Anyway, it uh it was a beautiful, you know, and I and I tell people this, Dave, you know, my my uh my kids, they go, they call me Sir Sir Sir because I was knighted three times and then doctor, doctor, doctor, doctor.
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I'm gonna have a I'm having a business card made that says Paul Hutchinson DMA.
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DMA, people, oh, doctor of medical.
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No, DMA means doesn't mean anything.
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All these accolades are crap.
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You know, it's how you show up, it's how you show up in your relationships, how you show up in your family.
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Yes, they get you in the door places and they're beautiful honors that that people have given.
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But the truth is none of them mean anything.
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It's it's how we show up every single day.
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They, if they add to an unbridled ego, then then they're you're worse off having them than not having.
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Well, I will be the first one to admit to you because when I read your biote, I was like, man, this guy's been knighted three times.
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Or should I call him Sir Paul when he comes on?
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So I just call him Paul.
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And so I I even texted my business partner, and it was like, this guy's been knighted three times.
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I don't know if I should call him Paul or Sir.
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And then my thought was if you wanted me to call him that, then that would have been something that would have been in the packet that was sent to me from your publicist, right?
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Because a lot of people that have those titles are very specific with you have to call me sir or doctor.
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Um but I find that that you didn't put that in there.
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I find that very humbling.
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I know a lot of people that earn those monikers, if you don't use those, there's like hell to pay.
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So I think for being humble, but that is one hell of an of uh accolade there.
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Thank you.
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Thank you.
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I'm incredibly grateful, but we're just beginning.
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And we're gonna be continuing to make a positive impact in the lives of others because that's that's really what life's about.
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And I believe the the bounteous blessings in business and finance, et cetera, that I've been giving to those who much was given, much is required.
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And I feel an obligation to continue to bring light and uh and a positive movement in the world.
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So let's talk about that because this part of your story becomes very interesting.
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You're a very successful businessman, co-founder of Bridge Investment Group.
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If you can afford to, you know, pay for a movie, that means that you were doing very well for yourself.
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What was it in your business life that made you decide that you want to give all that up and take on the journey you've taken up now with protecting children?
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Well, and uh, put it in perspective for the readers.
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At the time that uh I retired, I the company that I started had over 4,000 employees.
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We had over 20 billion in assets under management.
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But the the success, I truly believe, didn't come from just my hard efforts.
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I in my early 20s, I had a had a friend that said, Paul, if you want to be infinitely more successful in business and life and everything else, he said, make a decision today that you're going to donate a large percentage of your money and a large percentage of your time to making a positive impact in the lives of others.
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And uh he said, the average person only donates 2% of their annual income to charity.
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He said, sadly, millionaires donate less than 2%.
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And he said, if you decide that that number today for you is at least 10%, even 15 or 20% of your money to making a difference, he said, you can call it God, you can call it the universe, you can call it karma, you can call it whatever you want to.
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There's there's an energetic force very interested in us doing good, and you will be rewarded.
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And I I tell people, you know, how does somebody become a partner, let alone a founder of a 20, 30, 40 billion dollar investment fund?
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Well, you you're not a University of Utah dropout, right?
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That's where I am.
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The only thing that I can think of that, I mean, the statistical probability of me being where I am is zero.
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The only way that I can understand it is that I made that decision in my early 20s to give until it hurt, to make a positive impact.
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And I and I remember I took my mentor's advice and I'm like, okay, I want to give money away.
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I want to help.
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You know, I'd go downtown, find some guy on the side of the street, give him money.
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And my friend's like, are you really making a difference?
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Or you think he's gonna use that for drugs?
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And I'm like, you know, I don't know.
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I I can't judge.
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I don't know, you know, and maybe if I didn't have a healthy family growing up, I'd be on the side of the street.
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I don't know.
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But over time, I decided to focus my time and my money on the truly innocent, on child-related charities.
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I I served on many different boards.
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In fact, I was on the Make-A-Wish board of directors in our in our area for seven years.
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I was the incoming chairman for that division of make-a-wish when I got a phone call from our attorney general.
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And he said, Paul, he said, I know you've donated a lot of money to child-related charities and you you put a lot of time there.
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He said, I need to talk to you about something that's pretty dark.
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It's the the fastest growing criminal enterprise in the world, and good people don't even know that it's happening.
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And he started talking about human trafficking.
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And I said, I said, you know, I thought, I thought, I thought slavery disappeared at the time of Abraham Lincoln.
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You know, we we've we fixed that.
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He said, no.
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He said, sadly, it's bigger today than ever before.
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There's literally more people in slavery today than all 300 years of the transatlantic slave trade put together.
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And we sit back thinking that we've we've moved past that, but we haven't.
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And then he started talking about child trafficking and a homeland security agent that was in Colombia that had identified some children, and that's where my life changed.
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So backed off of what you just said, you made an interesting point when you said you thought that slavery had ended with Abraham Lincoln.
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A lot of people I talk to about trafficking, that's how I refer it to.
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Being that I'm African-American, right?
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Well, everything that you think is is related to slavery.
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And I'm like, okay, what is slavery?
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Servitude unto somebody else that you are forced to do, labor or whatever it is.
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And in a lot of these cases, you know, with children is sexually related.
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That's slavery to me.
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Can you just elaborate a little bit more on that, on why you, being the person you are, would actually lead on the gauntlet and say, this is exactly slavery.
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In every, every way, in every way it is slavery.
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You know what makes me mad, David?
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I was talking to a guy the other day, and he he's like, Oh, Paul, you know, I don't, I want to hear about it.
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I want to hear about the, you know, child travel.
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I want to hear it.
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I don't want to, I want to just, and I said, you know what?
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I said, if you lived back in the early 1800s, in the mid-1700s, I said, if you live back then and you had a neighbor that was doing horrific things to people of color, I said, would you do something about it?
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He goes, Oh, yeah, I want to do so.
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I said, No, you wouldn't.
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You would turn your head and say, Oh, that's too dark.
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I want to talk about it.
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I said, this is a conversation we need to have.
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The reason why we we put out the movie Sound of Freedom is back at the time of Abraham Lincoln, it wasn't guys like me, it wasn't the guys rescuing the slaves that created the biggest impact.
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It was people like Harriet Beecher Stowe, who wrote a book called Uncle Tom's Cabin, that created an awareness with good people throughout the country of the atrocities that were happening.
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And in fact, years later, when when Abraham Lincoln met her, he shook her hand, he said, So you're the little lady that wrote the book that started the big war, right?
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We have to have awareness.
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We have to talk about these things because if we don't, then they continue.
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If she hadn't written that book, if if good people in the U.S.
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hadn't said, no, this is outrageous that this is actually happening.
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If we hadn't had enough people stand up and say we're done with it, then it would still be going on today.
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And sadly, yes, it is still going on today.
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It has gone underground, it's gone with children, it's gone sexual, and there's air, there is slavery today as prevalent as it has ever been.
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And yeah, we say, oh, we have a bigger population.
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Yeah, but it is it is sadly more people involved in slavery today than all 300 years of the transatlantic slave trade put together.
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So yeah, there's my passion right there.
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And I uh yeah, and I fight that all the time with people that don't want to have this conversation.
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I say, yeah, you would you would have turned your head in the 1700s as well, wouldn't you?
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1800s, yeah.
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Well, that's why I have this show because I believe that these are things that need to be talked about, and I'm very hard-hitting.
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And I say I'm not for everybody because I'm not gonna pull any punches with that.
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That's why, as a society, we don't get anywhere because everybody is too afraid of being canceled or they don't want to breach this topic because your show is gonna go away.
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Then if you want to find a reason to cancel me because I'm telling the truth and I'm trying to help save people, so be it.
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I'll I'll take that every day of the year.
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Absolutely.
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So what do you think the root causes of child trafficking is and how do we address it?
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So it's interesting you would say that, Dave.
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I on my on my first mission, I thought, I thought, okay, what what uh yeah, they they they asked me to come in and play a role of a wealthy buyer of the children.
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If you watch Sound of Freedom, Pablo Delgado, the billion-dollar fund manager who who who quits his job to go help rescue the kids, that was me in real life.
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And uh and I thought, I had no idea what to expect.
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I thought, okay, these guys are gonna have have earrings in their noses and and tattoos down their neck and look like thugs.
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And the first trafficker I met was uh was a businessman and clean shaven in a nice, nice outfit.
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And the next one I met was a beautiful woman.
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She was running from Miss Cartagena at one point.
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She had a fake modeling agency that she was trafficking these children through.
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And I thought, these aren't traffickers.
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But as we sat down and started talking, absolutely these guys were selling children.
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And over the next 10 years, as I led or played a key part in over 70 undercover child rescue missions, the common thread with the traffickers, the common thread with the perpetrators, that common thread wasn't tattoos and earrings in their noses.
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That common thread was arrogance and greed and lust.
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And anytime you look at another human being as anything other than equal to yourself in every way, as an object in any way, then you start going down a dark road.
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This is why things like pornography are so challenging.
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Now, I'm gonna throw it out there because everybody who's listening has seen pornography.
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It doesn't mean you're gonna become a pedophile, but every single one of these guys started out with a hardcore addiction.
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And that addiction, what happened is they needed something harder to have that same fix.
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The very second that you take a woman from the divine feminine that she is to an object, you go down a dark road.
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The divisions that we have based on based on income, based on race, based on religion, based on all anything, when we're dividing ourselves, we're playing into that same arrogant energy that was creating trafficking.
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And then fast forward, after 10 years of doing missions, I looked at the numbers and I realized there were more children being sold today than there were 10 years ago.
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And I said to myself, Paul, if your goal was to eradicate this evil from the face of the earth, if that was your goal on that first mission, and that's what brought you into this, you're not doing a very good job.
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You're not eradicate because it's growing.
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And I had to take a step back and say, okay, why?
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Where is it coming from?
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And now the next thing I say, David, and and this for the audience here, don't get me wrong on this.
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I'm not a sympathizer of these people in any way.
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The second that you cross that line, you're wasting my oxygen, right?
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The second that you touch a child, you hurt a child, you're wasting my oxygen.
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However, I found myself wishing that I could have a time machine and go back in time and help those kids before they're ever hurt in the first place.
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And then I asked myself, if I pulled them out, then what would happen?
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Well, 20 more would be sucked in to fill a demand.
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And where was that demand coming from?
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Hurt people hurt other people.
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Now, that does not give them an excuse.
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The majority of us are hurt in some way.
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However, 70% of incarcerated felons admit that they went through abuse as a child.
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And so that is coming out in very unhealthy ways and passing on their trauma to other people.
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So we're we're gonna fix this, and we can go into this deep.
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If we're gonna fix this, we have to figure out how to help our children heal from their own childhood trauma before they pass it on.
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Our young adults, our adults, even ourselves, the average age of a man, especially that that that even admits or talks about that kind of abuse as a child, the average age is 52 years old.
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Now, I'm not saying that if you went through that, you're gonna pass it on.
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God bless us, the majority of men and the major majority of women who go through that grow up to be protectors.
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However, one out of every three, if not given the love, the help, the healing that they need at the right time, end up becoming contact offenders.
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And that's what we need to figure out.
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We need to figure out how to how to stop that before they ever, ever, ever cross that line.
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Well, it's very interesting that you say that, because I am such a survivor as well.
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And I have made it my mission last year, and I continue to do that, to share my story because a lot of men do not talk about it, which does not aid to the healing.
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I'll be the first one to say that you are exactly right with the statistic you just gave, because I've I've said in public speeches and to my wife before I married her 20 plus years ago, if it was not for my mother, if it was not for the love that she gave me, if it was not for the encouragement, because of the physical abuse that I had taken from my father, and that's all that I seen.
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I grew up very angry because you don't know where to dispel those things, right?
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So I was the fighter and I caused all kinds of issues.
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I don't know where I would be.
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I would be either incarcerated or I would be in jail.
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And I try to tell people this is not a color thing.
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This is a thing that happens among everybody in the world because no matter what color you are, you suffer these same things.
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And that's why I preached this so hard.
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I'm glad you brought that up and you stand with me on that, because I feel that if a lot more men did talk about it, get it off their chest, that we wouldn't have the incarceration levels that we have, or the men that are trafficking children or doing other things to kids, because unfortunately, that's how they were brought up.
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And nobody ever loved them enough to try to change that in them.
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So when you get my age, which I am exactly 52, maybe you start figuring this stuff out by this time, but it's already too late for you.
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You're already incarcerated, done the dashly things that you do.
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And I do believe that it is an illness that people look over.
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So I appreciate you for saying that.
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Exactly.
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Well, and and what happens is, you know, so many guys are like, oh, you know, that that thing that happened to me while I was eight by my uncle.
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You know, I don't want to talk about that.
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It'll make me less of a man if I do.
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No, it won't.
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You were eight.
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That was a horrible thing that happened from somebody that was in a lot of pain themselves, and everything of our past, everything that was done to us, everything that we did, everything can heal.
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And it's going to take a process of doing so.
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Now, here's the statistics on that.
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Like I threw out earlier, one out of every three pass on that trauma.
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However, by just talking about it, just talking about it to your spouse as somebody just talking about it, just getting that pressure off of you and not having it be something that you're holding on to deep down inside, just that one action takes it so that the statistical probability of you passing that trauma on goes way, way, way down.
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I've heard some numbers as low as one in 50 to 1 in 100 of passing that on.
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So if people are like, well, you know, number I don't want to tell somebody that that happened to me because then they're going to think that I'm going to be an abuser myself.
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No.
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The very fact that you're talking about it makes it so you're not going to be one.
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You're not holding it in.
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It's the same thing with a lot of addictions.